Vaginal Dryness in Menopause
I am approaching my 60s, and officially went through menopause years ago. I didn’t know much about this transition in life other than what my mother told me. She was a very matter-of-fact kind of person and simply said she started menopause at age 52 and didn’t remember anything except the hot flashes. I thought, Ok, I can deal with that.
Caught off guard by the impact of menopause
Unfortunately, I didn’t understand the profound impact menopause had on my body and my mind. You see, I had no idea that there were other effects besides hot flashes and maybe some weight gain. I was in for a surprise. I experienced weight gain as my body moved through physical cessation of my period. In fact, that season of weird period symptoms lasted for several years- and so did the weight gain. I still struggle with additional unwanted pounds even though I exercise and stay very busy physically.
The real surprise for me was how my hormones seemed to shift, gradually leaving me with a change in my body’s natural lubrication. This change was so gradual I don’t think I really realized what was happening. I hadn’t heard anything about vaginal dryness, and I hadn’t ever thought to ask anyone. I just noticed things were a little different when my husband and I were intimate. I often noticed I felt a little apprehensive worrying that I wouldn’t be able to enjoy that part of our connection. The physical discomfort often overshadowed any pleasure.
Hours of discomfort on an airplane
The unexpected shocker happened on a much-anticipated overseas trip to a conference followed by holiday time back packing with a colleague. On the long flight over, I noticed I became incredibly uncomfortable. I figured the hours spent sitting were causing the stinging and dryness. However, once we arrived and settled into the new time zone, I found the vaginal discomfort had morphed into stinging pain. I was nearly frantic. After consulting with colleagues and a health care provider, I was advised to apply an over-the-counter lubricant and consult my family doctor upon my return to Canada. I followed the instructions and experienced a measure of relief. I was able to be comfortable enough to enjoy the conference and the travelling without feeling so overwhelmed by the anxiety of an untreated problem.
Once I got home, I was proactive and took my concerns to our family doctor. They introduced me to various treatment options, from hormone therapy to lubricants and moisturizers designed to alleviate vaginal dryness. I picked the option that suited my situation the best, and I have been very careful to maintain this option ever since.
Being proactive about caring for my mind and body
Taking control of my mental health was equally important. The impact of vaginal dryness had extended beyond my intimate life. It seeped into my overall mental health, amplifying feelings of anxiety and frustration that often accompanies the menopausal journey. Sleep disturbances and mood swings were already challenging enough, but the added burden of vaginal dryness weighed heavily on my mind. Engaging in regular exercise, practicing mindfulness, and connecting with a supportive community became vital in my journey towards emotional well-being. Through self-compassion and patience, I learned to accept and adapt to the changes my body was undergoing.
In retrospect, I now understand that vaginal dryness is not merely a physical condition- it has the power to influence our mental and emotional health as well. It is a reminder of the intricate connections between our bodies, minds, and overall well-being. I am far better off now that I am aware and able to be proactive about the pieces that make up my whole self.
